(I apologize if this is a bit of a ramble)

Hi, I'm a 26 yr old trans girl. I've been struggling with a complicated mix of symptoms and external factors for a long time, which a little more than 2 months ago ended me up homeless. I'm seeing a psychiatrist tomorrow in hopes of them being able to help me get back on my legs and regain some semblance of control over my life. I'm even signed up to give college another try come the end of the year.

I grew up in an abusive household, and obvious symptoms of autism and adhd were ignored and punished, was sexually abused for years, and the fundamentalist religious atmosphere made coming to terms with my transness over the years painfully difficult. after barely graduating 8th grade, high school, and dropping out of college, I decided to see a psychiatrist. I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and adhd, but i wasn't quite ready to accept taking medication, so i quit going. a year later i got sent to inpatient and diagnosed with an unspecified psychotic disorder. The psychiatrist i worked with for a year after that never wanted to listen to my inputs when i would tell him my medication wasn't helping.

After dropping out of care because of getting kicked out of my home, i repeatedly tried to get psychiatric care but doctors would, at best, routinely put me on antidepressants that either didn't help or made me worse, and ignore any of my other symptoms or at worse drop my ass at the mention of psychotic symptoms.

So the crux of my question is: How should I conduct myself such that I actually get the treatment I need, and get the doctor to help me work on getting disability like the doctors who cared for me after being put into inpatient said i should (which is especially important now because having a verified disability would give me access to government housing assistance)? What is an effective strategy for making my needs known? How do I avoid having them focus on only a tiny part of the picture, or tell me I'm just too crazy to work with and at worst try to send me to inpatient?