Thursday, February 1, 2018

Feeling guilty

I'm 29 and I've taken meds since highschool. Last year after many episodes and situations I was diagnosed bipolar and they are still working on getting the right meds and doses for me. A few months ago I started spending time with a guy, every thing was great and we decided to try to be gf and bf. He started posting a lot about me us on social media. Im not the kind of girl who posts a lot about my relationships. Im very active on Instagram cause i like to share about my bipolar disorder journey but being 2018 I didn't see anything wrong with him posting so much about us. Weeks later he started fighting with me almost every day. He would make me feel bad cause I wasn't in love with him as he was in love with me. I tried to explain that i was enjoying the relationship and that i still needed more time for it to happen but i was getting there. Then xmas and new year's came and it was a huge fight cause i dont celebrate any of that and i wasn't even in town during that time cause i made plans to travel before meeting him. I've told him that i have generalized anxiety and i need time before meeting his family and this lead to another fight about how bad of a GF I am. I've spent many days explaining to him what is it like for me to have bipolar disorder and try to have a "normal" social life. I also explained that for the same reason I'm very close to the few friends i have cause they've been through hell with me and this disorder since he was upset at me for not trusting him like I trust my friends. All this happened in 2 months which for me was a short time to get to love him and trust him as much as he was asking me to. It feels like every time I talk to him i end up explaining why I am the way i am as if everything I do is wrong. One day after telling him that it wasn't working for me and my health, we ended the relationship. Then I found out that he posted on fb that I cheated on him and that one day I was gonna regret it. I never cheated on him and he never found anything that could make him believe so. I got messages from his friends saying I was a bitch and stuff. Yesterday he called me to apologize for hurting and to say that he was finally understanding what I've been through cause he was diagnosed bipolar after seeing a therapist 1 day. Today he asked to see each other and try again. I told him I wasn't ready for it yet. His response was this... "Well I’m sorry. I guess this relationship is another thing I lost to my bipolar. Sorry for putting that on you. I guess I don’t blame you. I’m not right yet. You need someone who isn’t sick like me. Love you. Always."

What would you think? At this point I know for sure he is not good for my mental health and I dont see a reason to fight for the relationship. More than anything I feel guilty cause now he suddenly said he was diagnose bipolar and to be honest there's a part of me that doesn't believe it's true.

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