I've known my wife for over 15 years, since she was in Grade 10. She was enthusiastic about life, and always loved life. Ever since we got married, she tells me that she isn't enthusiastic about life. We both have incredibly good jobs, stable income, nice home, good health, great family. We cannot complain.

She's been seeing a psychiatrist and they prescribed her mild depression meds, I'm not sure what they are. It seemed to have calmed down her anxieties overall, but her general outlook on life is bleak.

She said, if she were to die (painlessly), that would be fine. It's the same as living.

To me, that is concerning. I want to be able to give her that spark back, and I'm looking into past things that she loved - performing music and even hanging out with her friends. She does neither now, as she comes home after work, we hang out and watch stuff. It is pretty uneventful.

She is extroverted and I am introverted; so I am okay with staying home and doing my own thing, and I believe she has adapted to me, and doing her own thing too. But I think she really wants to go out and have a good time. I'm going to plan fun weekend events for us, and some romantic dinners.

Deep down, I think I just need to help her find purpose in life. At the moment, she has everything in life but nothing to look forward to. Since we are married, and are thinking of a child, that may be the next step. But I don't think mentally we are both ready, and I don't want to use a child as an excuse to have purpose - that is the wrong approach.

What do you guys/gals think?