So I need some advice... I’ve been with my boyfriend almost 8 months. He makes me so happy and I genuinely see us getting married and having a family. Unfortunately this is the first time ever for me having one of my low moods whilst in a relationship - I’m depressed most the time but at the moment I’m like an extra level of depressed. I don’t know how to handle it because I can see how this is hurting him and I’m getting frustrated because he’s not handling it well and says stupid stuff (I was having a break down a few nights ago and was texting him whilst crying and he says ‘I can’t handle this right now I’m stressed and tired’ - stuff like that)

He’s never been with a person who has depression before either.

He’s not handling the fact that I’ve no libido at all, and things such as cuddling are too much for me as well. I know this is down to the fact that I was assaulted early last year and I never dealt with it because I didn’t know how or if I could (also I don’t want my mum to know because she’s emotionally abusive so would use it against me)

I believe that he believes that he knows it’s not his fault but he’s been saying the odd stuff here and there and it’s made me feel guilty, I don’t think he does it on purpose because I do think he’s just a bit obtuse.

I just want to know what to say to him. What are the magic words I could use to just fix things? I want him to know what depression is, I want him to think before he speaks and I want him to stop pressing for sex and even talking about it via text because that makes me anxious.

I feel terrible because I feel like I’m dating an itch, or a clicking pen that won’t stop.

I know what I need to do to get better because I admit I’ve not looked after myself properly but it’s going to take time.

I’m just stuck and in a constant state of Agro