I’m sorry if this isn’t the right sub for this but I texted my friend last weekend and asked if she wanted to hang out over the weekend but she never responded. Although we’ve texted since then, she never really brought up the fact that she completely ignored my message asking if she wanted to hang out.

Just to be clear, she sometimes doesn’t answer my texts out of nowhere—like we’ll be having a nice conversation and then all of a sudden she just won’t respond and the conversation stops. A lot of times she doesn’t reply to my texts. I’m generally fine with this because I’ve gotten used to it and I understand that she’s always really busy, but I have a hard time believing that she can’t just take 5 seconds to text me back and say “Hey, sorry but I’m really busy this weekend. Maybe next weekend?” or something, and spare me all this worry and all these invasive thoughts.

The fact that she can’t just respond really quick to me asking her to hang out over the weekend often gives me a ton of invasive unwanted thoughts when I think about it. I always wonder if she’s quicker to respond to her other friends because they’re funner to be around and better than me. I always think what if she only hangs out with me at this point because I comfort her when she’s upset and she comes to me with all her trouble and I help her? Last time we were out together I feel like I talked too much and the time before that I feel like I didn’t talk enough (granted, I feel like we’re close enough that any silence between us is never awkward) and what if she’s annoyed by that?

I know all of this isn’t true. I know she cares about me—just a few weeks ago she told me she couldn’t ask for a better friend. I just love her so much, more than anyone in the world, and I’m afraid of doing wrong by her, and I’m afraid that I am. I know I’m not, but I just can’t shake these invasive feelings. How do I shake them?

Sorry for the long post!