I'm a shy anxious person. My social circle isn't that big but I try to work on that. I've always taken a while to feel comfortable around any new people and I tend to feel like people don't like me unless there's some obvious sign they do. A year or two ago I finally got lonely enough that I forced myself to start dating.

So far I haven't had any long term relationships just little flings every few months. Obviously I'm happiest when I'm seeing somebody but at this point I'd say I'm only at my base level happiness when I have someone to talk to (ie. New tinder matches). When I don't have anyone to talk to, especially just after getting dumped I feel like shit. I blame it on myself and over analyze everything. I drink way more and way more often, I'll usually try to drag my friends out to the club on random weekdays, I chain smoke, spend a lot of time getting high and just laying in bed.

Does anyone have any tips for dealing with this? I don't want to be this dependant on other people because it makes me obsessed with it and I know I'm more successful with a more laid-back approach.