My son is a senior, and is 18. Age of majority is 19 in NE so I think he's okay, but some things came up tonight that worry me. I am a depression sufferer- long term, chronic, due to chronic pain. My son was diagnosed 6 months ago with an anxiety disorder and takes lexipro for it.

In short, he is close friends with a Junior at school that is trans, and going through a huge difficult time with parents and step parents at home. My son and they chat and talk mostly via computer, and some things were said that the parents took as threats to themselves. Police were called about it and he got a warning tonight.

After I got the call from the officer I asked my son (before the officer came) if there was anything we (mom and I) needed to know before the officer showed up, because it could just be the parents exaggerating. He said no, there really wasn't. After the officer got here and we all talked we found out that apparently there were messages sent involving killing, or 'they need to die' or something to that effect. The officer said that he had actually seen the texts. He talked to our son, said sin no more, and left. We then talked with our son again, who was now quite visibly agitated. He can go from very angry/shaking to completely calm and deliberate in a few seconds, though. I noticed this, and so did Mom. I have a similar problem.

We asked him again about the texts and he said that he gets very angry when texting this other kid about the situation they are in, and that he doesn't remember sending the texts, but obviously, there they are. My older brother was a paranoid schizophrenic and would have episodes like this too- calm placid demeanor masking pretty heated rage within a few seconds of each other, and would also have episodes where he threatened other people and didnt remember doing it. My son also has a notion that just because his name isn't on his social media accounts that that masks him identity wise- Im a masters student in infosec and will work dilligently to disabuse him of this faulty logic. Obviously the parents knew who it was, though it was probably by interrogating the other kid since there were no warrants for social media or phones.

So, my concern is that I think Mom and I should bring this up with my son's doctor, even if he won't (and he probably wont), but we dont want to feel like we are over stepping our bounds. Yes, he still lives with us, since he's in HS, but he's off to college next year and is going to have to learn to deal with his emotions and anxiety in a non sheltery setting at some point. If we dont bring it up on our own with our doctor (family practitioner) for him, what if he doesn't? Could this be something that is an offshoot of his anxiety issues or is it worse, something that is being treated as anxiety when it could be something worse?